A Question of Audience

I realize that I haven't known who I'm writing this for. I never really made that a clear decision. If it's for potential clients, then that limits what I want to write about. That keeps me from talking about the negatives. That prevents me from talking about the behind the scenes moments, like hanging out in the kitchen with the other women at the Gates and talking about our lives.

If I'm writing for other people already in the scene... well, quite frankly, that intimidates me. I'm no expert. I've been working as a professional submissive for six months, but there's still so much for me to learn. Heck, I only really started learning knots today. I worry that people more experienced than I am will be critical.

If I'm writing this for people totally unfamiliar with the scene... well, that actually sounds like a lot of fun. But it might alienate either of the two potential audiences I've already mentioned.

I'm clearly not writing this solely for myself. If I were, it wouldn't be on the web.

There is value to knowing your audience. But trying to tailor to a specific audience, to pander... not so good.

I think I'm going to write this to the sort of person I was a year ago. To someone intrigued by the whole idea, but unfamiliar and unaware. A year ago, I never would have guessed I'd be working at a BDSM house. I'd been flogged a few times by a friend. I'd been tied down during sex with a boyfriend. I'd bitten and been bitten. But that was about the extent of it.

So I'm writing to me. And I'm going to talk about the things I would have wanted to know, or that I wish I'd known before.